Saying Goodbye. Bang Bang Pop Pop.

Me, Sheppard, Roan, Anson + Smith

Me, Sheppard, Roan, Anson + Smith

I’m not so much a fade-to-black person as I am a cut-and-roll-the-swelling-anthem-and-credits kind of person. Even so, I’ve put off writing this post. This post where I say goodbye.

Smith, Roan, and Sheppard running the F Train to Coney Island

Smith, Roan, and Sheppard running the F Train to Coney Island

Pistols and Popcorn has done everything I needed it to do. I started it at a time where Roan and I had the majority of our time to ourselves. We shared our time with New York, letting her be the third-wheel in our adventures. I would plan things to do with him with writing about them in mind. I feel like it was a way to inject some adult conversation into our very child-centric days. And the way Pistols and Popcorn caught on totally blew my mind. These small entries about hanging with my kid – people care enough to read them?? Who knew?

Smitty, Shepz + Ro with Nathan's Famous.

Smitty, Shepz + Ro with Nathan’s Famous.

Over the years Pistols has helped me make decisions, lent me support, served as a sounding board, and sometimes helped me ride my high horse. Pistols propped me up and kept me wrapped up in my readers’ strength and support during some pretty hard times. It offered up interesting opportunities I never would have come across otherwise. It started friendships with people I have absolutely come to love. Most importantly, this place has served as a record of years of my family’s life.

Ro + Anson. This pose happens more and more often.

Ro + Anson. This pose happens more and more often.

And now it’s just time for me to say goodbye. Things in this life have changed, and I’m constantly grateful for the direction they keep moving in. I’ve been able to begin working with old friends, circling back to old talents. My free time now sends me on these ravenous scavenger hunts for all the right words for my new gig. I couldn’t be happier. I couldn’t be having any more fun. And these writing assignments are all during nap time, so I’m still loyal to the toddler park circuit, ┬ábeing the mom who lets her kids climb up the down slide without an apology. Fear me.

Spiderman, Smitty, Sheppard, Spiderman, Roan.

Spiderman, Smitty, Sheppard, Spiderman, Roan.

I still have so many stories to tell. The twins, my Smitty + Shep, leave me full-to-the-eyeballs with stories on an hourly basis. But my Roan is getting older, and that is a thing I think about. I can no longer talk about everything he does and says with the abandon I used to, when he was a child. He is older. He deserves some privacy. And it just doesn’t feel right to be telling his stories anymore. And obviously, there is no way for me to talk about this family without including him.

Smitty + Me.

Smitty + Me.

I just see the signs, really. It’s time to say goodbye. The dumb luck part of it is that it’s ending in a Hollywood-happy way. Life is good. I have everything I ever wanted. I have way more than I ever hoped for. We are healthy, this family. We love each other in ridiculous amounts. We are stupid together and fight often and laugh and eat really good food. We have embarrassingly good friends. This is a nice place to leave it.

Thanks for being here. Thanks for your emails, comments and time. Thanks for sharing in this family and our weirdness. Bang pop.

42 thoughts on “Saying Goodbye. Bang Bang Pop Pop.

  1. Goodbye! Have a good life with your boys! Even though I didn’t read all of your posts I’ll still miss them and you.

    Janneke

  2. Thank you for all you have shared over the years. I am the west coast chemist who sent the twins the scientific onesies. I have enjoyed your stories over the years and often wondered when this day would come.. All the best in the world to you and your lovely family.

  3. I remember when you emailed me with the idea of chronicling your summer with Roan as a series on Mommy Poppins. I’m so glad you turned it into this beautiful blog. I hope you will keep it up, even if you don’t continue to add to it. It’s been a fabulous ride. xo Anna

  4. Well shoot. I had a feeling this post was coming. I’ve been thinking about you and your family all week. I had images of Coney Island, ice cream cones and sweet sticky boy faces. Thanks so much for sharing your life in the big city with people all over the globe. I’m forever your friend and you know Imma gonna look you up when I’m out east next. Our door in Santa Fe is always open to your fam. All my love!

  5. Well, I’m lucky enough to get the occasional wave across the street at your smiling gang. Without question I will cheer you on in all your choices as fearless & filled with giggles as I know they must be. It has been a pleasure witnessing the wild abandon with which you’ve sailed forward through high and low tide… “you rock” so Thx for sharing!

  6. While I completely understand all of your reasons, I will so miss your posts. Great Luck and warm well-wishes to you, lovely lady.

  7. Thanks so much for taking us along on your trip this far. Travel safe and happy the rest of the way with your wonderful crew!

  8. I don’t think I’ve ever commented on here before, but given that you’re ending this, I wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed reading your blog. Your life is absolutely nothing like mine (a childless female in her early twenties living in WV), but has been fascinating to read about nonetheless. Thanks for such a well-written blog!

  9. This is a bummer for us readers of your ever-great writing! :-( Thanks for sharing all that you have, and here’s wishing you and your family the best from the 39th parallel. Drop a line on Elden’s blog some time, maybe?

  10. I admire you for doing this for your son(s). It’s been a joy to read your story and I wish you and your darling family all the best! Peace!

  11. I’m so sorry to see your blog go. It feels like it – and by extension, your family – has been along with me since I hoped on the parenthood train. I can’t tell you how much I’m grateful for your live-and-let-live style of parenting. It isn’t my own, but it has helped me really see people for who they are and how they reach their parenting styles. I remember reading about the mom of twins you talked to in the park who wanted to put harnesses on her children so they would stop running away. At the time, my son ran away all the time. All the time. To the point that I was having such high alert-panic problems with him in public. You were so gentle about her needs versus your own, with your two children who didn’t run away. Thank you for that. Thank you for bringing that respect of mothers everywhere. Best of luck with your family. I’ll miss your stories!

  12. Will miss your writing but you need to do what is right for your family. I actually found your blog from your brother’s–so thanks for reminding me that I have a book to buy!

  13. Sorry to see you go. I’ve loved reading your stories. You are a wonderful mom. Good luck to you and your family in your lives ahead. I sure wish there were a way to keep up with you. Take care

  14. thanks for sharing your life with us. never was a city girl and followed your postings as a peak into what life in the big city would be like. be healthy, be happy and continued to love and be loved. P.S. I am fully expecting to see Roan as a contestant on PR in about a decade :-)

  15. I had a feeling that you were slowly weaning us…it’s been a pleasure reading about your family over the years. I am very glad that all is well and life is good. Yes, family is soo very important and time flies by too quickly. Enjoy every precious minute with your boys and hubby. My husband and I are lucky to be blessed with three children and two grandsons. We are both healthy and are thankful they are as well. Thanks Jodi for all the smiles and insights. Take care of each other.

  16. Thank you for all your wonderful posts. They have opened my mind and challenged me. They also made me laugh like a maniac. I’ll so miss your glimpse into the wild and crazy NYC and the stories of your boys, but understand why you need to keep them to yourself. Is this how you say good-bye to someone you’ve never met, but will miss like a friend whose perspective you value?? I have no idea. Let the good times roll!

  17. Thanks for all the fun posts and for making my family weirdness seem normal. All the best to you and yours!

  18. I will miss hearing about where you and your boys are going but know wherever it is will be just amazing! Good luck to all of you from upstate!

  19. No more pistols and popcorn? My reaction is something you’ve been saying for a long time: “Who the? What the? Why the?”

    Thanks for the long run and taking us along.

    If you see a gentleman of a certain age riding through your neighborhood in a Fat Cyclist jersey on his way to the park, wave.

    It might even be me.

    And if he’s stopped for a lemon ice at the Court Street Bakery, that would definitely be either me or at least someone I want to be.

    Again, thanks for the posts. I’m a little ahead of you on the parent journey and your writing often triggered warm memories of similar events in my family’s life.

    Turns out Tolstoy was on to something. Even if his Ana Karena opening that “all happy families are alike” is a bit overstated, as parents, we have a lot in common. Thanks for sharing.

  20. Don’t think I’ve ever commented but been reading for what feels like ages – totally understand the decision but will miss reading you!

  21. I will definitely miss your posts! I loved the stories and loved how they reminded me about the kind of parent I want to be. I understand why you’re saying good-bay, even though I don’t like it. :) Best of luck to you and thank you for sharing yourself with all of us. You will be missed!

  22. Thank you for sharing your stories over the years! I’ve enjoyed peaking into the love you have for your family, your perspectives on life, your adventures in NY… It has been beautiful. P&P will be missed!

    I know you will continue to live those stories and soak up the everyday joys! All the best to you!

  23. Say it isn’t so!!

    Not sure what your target audience was, but as a 50+ male cyclist I’m sure I’m not it.

    Thank you for sharing your joys (and sorrows) with us; I’m sure I’m not the only reader who wanted to be adopted by the Nelson-Call family.

    I hope you’re keeping the office open for long enough to read these replies – so long and thanks for the ride.

    Paul W

  24. Godspeed to your family. Not that I’d see in you in The Big Apple, but if I do, I won’t ask for photos or autographs. :)

  25. I popped in to see how you were doing and I see this: a goodbye post. I HATE goodbye posts, especially from bloggers I love and check in on from time to time (I’m the one who emailed you about TFMR and the new baby).

    Have an amazing life. I’m so sad and jealous I won’t get to read about it, but I’m going to trust that you are making the most of it.

  26. Is it weird that I shed a tear as I read this? Thank you for sharing your stories, making me laugh, and just being you. You are amazing.

  27. To echo what Stephanie said above — thanks so much for sharing. Been following your blog since about 2008 and loved all of it, even though I’m totally in a different phase too (mid-twenties on the west coast). best of luck!

  28. I have followed you for years through heartbreak and happiness. It makes me sad to see you go. I swore if I was ever in Brooklyn I would attempt to meet you at the park with my son.
    It makes me sad to see you go but happy that lir3 is so fantastic for the fab five. Many blessing to your family. I was kind of hoping to spot Johnny Depp or somebody famous, so I could act all cool like it didn’t make my day. Keep on rocking the Mom thing. I think you are amazing.
    Much Love-Kristy

  29. Awe. I’m years late to read and say goodbye to Pistols And Popocorn. I have been wondering where it went lately. Thank you for sharing all of your wonderful, witty and entertaining stories. I miss them but it’s totally understandable. You’re amazing! I don’t know how you found the time when you did. Much love and standing ovation! Xoxo

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